(Hint: men should read this – what new thing females are cooking up)
An article by Bianca Farmakis in today’s Australian is titled What Women Really Want. Then comes a subheading: The huge cultural sex shift we all missed. Then a brief description of the article:
‘Steamy gay male romances like Heated Rivalry and Pinion are not anomalies: women in their millions now prefer to watch men loving men on screen [presumably she means men having sex]. But what does this new “heterofatalism” reveal about female desire – and where will it lead?’
I suspect it reveals something bad about men – it’s always something bad about men, these days. And God knows to what catastrophe it will lead. My interest was piqued, and I did some searching. I found this article on Mentalzon:
What Is Heterofatalism and Why Does It Matter?
It’s a feeling that settles in quietly at first, then all at once: a profound, weary disappointment with men in the landscape of modern dating. This isn’t just about one bad date or a single failed relationship. It’s a deeper state of emotional exhaustion, a collapse of hope that has been named heterofatalism. This term captures the fatigue many women feel when their desires for a serious, emotionally invested partnership repeatedly crash against a wall of indifference. It’s not an organized movement, but a shared, unspoken sigh of resignation echoing in a world of shifting social norms and growing pressures.
The Roots of a Modern Malaise
The term itself is relatively new, first coined as “heteropessimism” by researcher Asa Seresin in 2019 to describe a general disappointment with the opposite sex. It has since evolved to more specifically articulate the female experience of disillusionment. The idea quickly found its footing in mainstream conversations, resonating with countless women who felt their experiences were finally being given a name.
This feeling isn’t confined to one corner of the globe; it’s a sentiment that crosses cultural boundaries. At its heart is a mismatch of expectations. Women may hope for emotional cornerstones like support, attention, and care, only to find their partners seem unwilling or unable to provide them. This isn’t just about grand romantic gestures; it’s about the fundamental building blocks of a healthy connection. When even these basics are missing, the result is a slow burn of despondency and resentment.
Of course, this dissatisfaction is a two-way street. Men, too, often express frustration, feeling judged against impossible standards. A cycle of mutual resentment can take hold, with both sides raising their guard and their expectations. But here, we’ll focus on the specific phenomenon of female disappointment and where it stems from.
There’s also this:


